Is the grass always greener on the other side? I don’t think so. I believe the grass is greenest where you water it. To be fair, I didn’t always feel this way.
I’ll admit, I’ve been guilty of looking at the grass on the other side before. We’ve all been there. Of course this metaphor isn’t actually about grass. Instead it refers to our tendency to want what’s not ours. We believe everyone else has life figured out, and we don’t. The green grass we compare to ours could be anything; our relationships, our homes, our cars, even our jobs.
For a minute, let’s pretend this metaphor is actually about grass. The parallels between how we get our grass to be the greenest it can be and how we achieve success without comparing it to others is surprisingly similar.
Here’s a proven fact about grass: it needs water to survive. If you decide not to water your grass it will die. You don’t need to be a master landscaper to know this, but luckily for you I am, and I’ve proven this theory. Notice how I said “decide” not to water. Watering your lawn is a decision. It’s not easy. It can be time consuming. But it’s a choice you make. Deciding not to water and to neglect your lawn will lead to certain death.
The action of watering your grass is similar to Steven Covey’s definition of love, it’s a verb, it’s something you do. According to Covey, you can’t fall out of love with someone, but you can decide to stop loving them. Likewise, you can decide to stop watering your grass. Eventually there will be nothing left.
As we peak over the fence into the neighbor’s yard we admire their green grass while neglecting our own. Slowly our grass starts to brown. It’s time to snap out of it. Your grass needs water! Remember grass isn’t greener on the other side… It’s greenest where you water it. Walk over to your hose, turn the spigot on, and start watering.
Sometimes you’ll get a kink in the hose. If you’re like me you’ll try to un-kink it by standing exactly where you are, pulling and whipping it around, hoping that you can solve the problem with the least effort possible. Frustration will surface. You will try over and over again with no success. Take a minute to remember Albert Einstein’s definition of insanity: attempting the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. If you want to un-kink the hose, you must move from where you are, find the kink, and un-kink it. Yes, it takes additional effort, but it must be done.
We can’t expect to feel better about our situation when we’ve decided to mail it in. Before we go looking for greener pastures we need to do everything possible to fix the problem. Think of your relationships as grass. Think of your job as grass. When the going gets tough, get watering. This is not a race to see who can water the most. Watering your lawn more than your neighbor won’t make it any greener. This is a challenge to yourself to do whatever is necessary to make the best of your own life.
Let’s get super topical for a second. What happens when the water runs out? You live in California, and there’s a drought. What do you do then? Easy, tear out the grass and re-landscape. Sometimes change is unavoidable. Yes, you ripped out the grass, but you ripped out your grass. You re-landscaped your own yard. You didn’t go running to where the grass was greener to have a picnic.
The grass isn’t greener on the other side… It’s greenest where you water it. Invest the energy you would have used looking at the grass on the other side into making your grass the greenest it can be.
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